I took this picture while on a walk one day.  Seeing them walking together holding hands and just feeling the love that they had for each other was breathtaking.  I don’t even know these people but what they shared on that walk was so amazing to me.

You can feel the many years between them and the struggles that they may have faced and yet here they are taking a walk in the sunshine holding hands and enjoying each other to the fullest.  That is love…

So my notes from the universe said today “A Dream-Manifestation-Workaround for those tired of visualizing, giving thanks, and acting “as if,” Emily, is to love your life so greatly, exactly as it is, that you become a total magnet for more, more, more of all you could ever love.

You love magnet,
    The Universe”

After reading this note, I instantly thought of this pictureand the love thatI seebetweenthem, twostrangers to me, but a symbol for love.

Seeing how they”just” love…that is whatI am wanting to share today.  To love yourself and your lifewithout hesitation, with ease, andto the fullest.  It shouldn’t be hard, but it is many times.  It shouldn’t be scary but it is most of the time. It shouldn’t be difficultbut we make it soall mostall of the time.  And the truth of the matter is, if you love yourself effortlessly, withease and to the fullest, thatlove that youssee above will take over your life and fulfill your every need and desire.

I so often get tired of “visioning, dreaming,trying to manifest”,that I am going to try this week and dothingswith easeandabove all,love myself with ease. Why is that soscary and difficult? Because it is newground I am stepping into…andI have no ideawhere it will lead. 

to a wonderful and loving week

Em

So to start off this blog, I will be getting answers for your many questions from song lyrics and or quotes directly from the man himself, JBJ. Jon Bon Jovi, is a man of many talents and I have felt, since I was 8, when our lives collided, that he is the man with the answers.  He always knows what to say when to say.  For instance, back in the day when I was a smoker, I had been trying to quite forever, then JBJ’s new album “Have a Nice Day” came out and on that album there is a song called “One last cigarette”.  I couldn’t believe it, he was talking to me through his music, “Em, One last cigarette, I will savor it, the last cigarette…”

My response, “Ok JBJ, I get it, I will have that “One last cigarette and I will savor it, the last cigarette…”  And low and be hold I did end up quitting about 4 years later.  What a man!

Our love affair started when I was 8 years old.  I remember it like it was yesterday.  I was being baby sat by my two older cousins, Marlene and Theresa and we were watching MTV, the cool new tv channel that had music videos, it blew my mind.  My parents wouldn’t let me watch it cause it was way to racy and risky for an 8 year, so I thought I was really being a rebel and cool by watching it.  Billy Idol was just on singing “Mony, Mony”, he was rather scary to me, all he was doing was yelling and sneering at me, but my cousins seemed to love him so I went a long with it.  Then the most magical sight came on the screen, it was black and white, and these 5 guys were walking down a hallway.  They had big hair and the music just sent goose bumps up and down my arms, what was happening?  Then the most beautiful face appeared on the screen, I was mesmerized.  “Tommy used to work on the docks….”What was happening, I had no idea.  I had never felt this tremendous feeling of absolute love for someone I had never met before “Whoa we’re half way there, whoa living on a prayer, take my hand (Ok I will) and we’ll make it swear (I believe you, whoever you are) Whoa living on a prayer..”  Then the video goes into color with the key change and those baby blues are staring right at me.  When the video ended I just sat there stunned…What just happened.  Then I heard my cousin say, looks like someone’s got a crush on Jon Bon Jovi.  Jon Bon Jovi, the most beautiful name I had ever heard…

And that is how it all started…so here’s to the man, JBJ, Jon Bon Jovi

Do you ever feel that you are falling behind in life??

This is not concerning career stuff, which is an always up hill hike to keep up, but in life in general.  Thank gosh my parents weren’t expecting the usual get married and have kids thing, because they sure haven’t gotten it…yet, that is.  But it does make me feel sorry for them a little, to have a daughter that doesn’t have any strong pull to have either of those things, right now, and time is a tickin…

I look at my facebook newsfeed and everyone is having babies…getting married…or climbing MT.Everst, and I haven’t done any of those things.   And instead of just being like ok, good for them, it makes me take a second and think “Holy shit, am I suppose to be doing that too…Holy Crap, I am at that age where you usually get married and have kids by now…What the F****?” 

So then I take a second and look at Joe

and say “Joe…we gotta get on this”  to no response from him.  And lets get real here, he can’t handle something or someone coming into my life taking over his time to cuddle, his time to get treats, and especially taking over his side of the bed.

Then I think, oh man I am screwed, I am the lady that talks to her cat…is there no hope for me in this life.

Last night I held a beautiful 10 day old bundle of pure joy and it was amazing.  I loved it, I love kids and the whole domestic thing, it looks great, but there is something inside of me that puts up my hands in Diva style and says, “Oh, no, I can’t do this on a 24 hr 7 days a week thing”

So I guess I just wanted to get this out there, in case there any other peeps feeling the same way…and to realize that you aren’t alone…its ok, right?

I guess it is cause that is how it is going right now.  We shall see.  I did have my palm read recently and it said that I would have one kid, I said out loud, “Huh, are you sure, ummmm, ok????”

Kudos to everyone that is getting married and having kids, I love it.  And also kudos to us other peeps who are just going about things in a different way, I feel that if we are suppose to have that stuff, it will come, our path is just a little bit more obscure and hidden right now in the enchanted forest (it makes me feel better to pretend like we are in a fairy tale)…

love

Em

I don’t know about you, but I sweat the small stuff.  Actually I sweat the small stuff, the big stuff and everything in between.  Today, Gabrielle Berstein’s blog was about not sweating the small stuff. 

If you don’t know about Gabby, she is one of my favorite spiritual guru’s and I follow her blog every week, have read both of her books, and seen her live here in LA.  She is amazing and cool and someone I feel people of our generation can really connect with.

Anyhoo, today her message was “Don’t sweat the small stuff” and she lists three steps to take to get out of your head, out of that nervous, worry state and to let “it” go, because there is nothing good that can come out of worrying about “it”.  And when I say “it”, I mean anything, anything that your mind and ego latch on to to keep you spinning your wells.  No need for it.  Now I know this sounds great on paper, or on this blog page, but how do you do this?  How do you let go of the worry that gets its handle on you on a daily basis…

Well here is what Gabby has to say:

1. First off, ask yourself “is this worth it”  Is it worth making you sick, because as you know, when you start worrying, you don’t feel great, it sends your body into protective mode and distracts your whole being from its better good.

2. Out your worry to a friend.  Call up a friend and say “I just need to get this crazy idea out of my head” and just let it go.  Try not to get into a conversation about it, because that is allowing the worry to take over, but just get it out and then LAUGH ABOUT IT!!!  That is my favorite part, laugh about how ridiculous it is to worry about something like that.  LAUGH

3. Say the serenity prayer “God grant me the serenity to except the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

And hopefully by following these steps your worry will be leveled down to nothing and you can get on enjoying your life :)

Now the big one that I am going to take from this is to LAUGH!!!  Laugh especially when you don’t it know what else to do.  Because everything always works out one way or the other, so I believe that laughing will only speed up the process of a positive outcome.  So Laugh!

love

Em

My mom lives in Springfield, IL.  Well, actually, she isn’t my biological mom, she is my step mom, but pretty much the mom who raised me into the lady you see before you writing this amazing blog…

Now, if you don’t know where Springfield is, it is no where near Chicago.  It is in the middle of the state and pretty much the middle of nowhere.  And this is where I grew up.

So mom is sitting at a stop light in down town Springfield, with her windows down enjoying the warm air of a sunny summer afternoon, minding her own business not really aware of her surroundings when all of the sudden this magical voice just comes out of nowhere and says “Well Heeelllloooo Sugar Britches” with a long drawn out hello and a very confident Sugar Britches pick up line.  She is startled by the voice for one, and she turns to see who is sending this flattering gesture.  Her eyes fall upon this man, in a cab (which in Springfield, it is an oddity to see anyone in a cab Springfield, IL) who is grinning from ear to ear, which confidently shows the three teeth that have manage to stay intact, a greasy, barely there comb over and a striped polo with stains running down the front.  A sight to be seen to say the least.  As she is looking his way, he feels that his pick up has been a success thus far and he furthers it with “How are you doing today, my lady”.  That last “my lady” part really solidifies the sophistication that this man ex hoots to the world. 

She is over taken by what her eyes have just seen and what her ears have just heard, that it takes her a minute to even process what to do next.  He realizes her amazement and smiles at her to say “Yea, I am talking to you”.  This smile and dialogue snaps Clara back into reality, she realizes that this is actually happening, not something that her mind is making up, “yes, he is serious and yes he is still smiling at me, come back to the present, your in your car, you are safe, just turn towards the road and go” and she just turns back towards the road and drives off. 

After leaving “Sugar britches” behind, she just starts laughing hysterically.  First off she can’t believe that someone used the term “Sugar Britches” that is the new vocabulary word for the day, and also she is astounded by the amount of confidence this man had to just lay it out there, “Sugar Britches”, three teeth, comb over, stains and all.

I love it.  This story makes me laugh and I just wanted to share it with you.  You never know what your day is going to bring, maybe a little “Sugar Britches” is coming your way, so embrace it and smile, laugh and take it all in.

love,

Em

“You are right where you are suppose to be” is what the universe says and “you create your own reality”

Ok, I am kinda stuck on these two statements today…

I totally get the logic behind “You are right where you are suppose to be” because the entity that is running everything, God, the Universe, what have you, puts you on the path that you are suppose to be for a reason.  Because we all came here to experience life and by going on the path that we are on, we are suppose to learn things from it to take with us along the way.  Like as we walk along the “yellow brick road” and we find a map, that map will guide us to the next point etc.  Ok, so, like I said I get that, but when it feels like there isn’t anything to get us from where we are to where we are going, what do we do?  Does the statement still apply?

My reply to my own question is yes.  Whenever we are at a crossroads, and it feels like, “No I don’t think I am suppose to be here or this doesn’t feel right” you are, in my opinion, moving onto a new path.  A new way of being, that you have never felt before, so yea its gonna feel weird and wonky.  But the best thing to do is to just take some deep breaths, meditate, and trust that the path is still there and that you ARE right where you are suppose to be.  Whew, it is uncomfortable though, and that is ok.  We don’t like to be uncomfortable because we detect that means something is wrong, but in reality it is just the shifting of things that feels uncomfortable. You are Ok!

My BF said recently “when this is all over, we will feel such relief and laugh at how worried we were”.  When she said that it brought tears to my eyes.  Yea to feel that relief seems so magical and amazing.  And then I thought to myself, Oh this is what all that universal vibration stuff was talking about, feeling the relief now to bring the relief forth…WHOA.  Ok, so even now, when I have seen the lesson I am suppose to be learning, it is still a task to do it, to feel it and to know the relief is there!  I have to work on this day to day, moment to moment, by not allowing thoughts that are a negative vibration to that relief to take hold.  Hear and acknowledge the negative and then release it, like “Ok, I hear you and see you, but I choose to release you because you are not true to me.”  I just have to become in vibration with the relief! Easier said then done, but I am hoping that if I am diligent about it, the relief will become my second nature, not the negative.

This ties into the statement “You create your own reality”.  If we feel the relief now in our body, mind, and soul we will create it in our time/space reality.  I get that, but when you are feeling good, things are going good and then it “seems” to turn and go the other way, its hard to believe that I created that other way.  But I guess there was something in my belief system that believed that I couldn’t have it or that it wasn’t going to last.  Whew, taking responsibility for everything is hard to swallow and not always pleasant, but I am trying over here.

It is easier to put on paper what we innately know is truth, but to practice it on a daily basis is another whole ball of wax all together.  My best advice is to take it slow, yea, take it slow and truly trust that you are doing everything right.  If it feels right and good, then do it, go with it and trust it.  Don’t let all the doubt and outside sources deter you from what you know in your heart, because we all know that what your heart is truly telling you is your truth and your higher source.  So its always a good thing to listen to that.

You are on the right path at all times and you do create your own reality, so now, take hold and let it fly!

love

Em

I apologize for being MIA for awhile now…I know you were all on the edge of your seats being like…”Where’s the World According to Em Blog…”  I get it, I felt the same way…

This past month has been a difficult one for me, to say the least, but I am hoping and guessing that it’s going to turn around and with the Fall Equinox and the Sun in Libra that is pretty much what I am forecasting as of right now.

So the Fall Equinox, I didn’t know this, but starts today.  And this is actually really cool because what this means is that its a time for all of us to take a step back, and step into the silence for a bit and see where we have been putting our energy and where we want to be putting our energy.  Now is the time to evaluate what really matters in your life on a deeper level and to take one action a day toward that.  Whether it’s a certain goal or frame of mind that you want to achieve before 2012 is over.  I meditated on this today and my career is still what comes up for me when I think of where I want to put my energy, but when I asked myself what action do I want to take each day to get where I want to go, it had  more to do with self care and love.  I just recently got out of a long and loving relationship and realized that I was getting my self love “fix” from that relationship, and not myself.  Which, I don’t know if any of you can relate to that, but it is quite eye opening when you realize, “Hey, I was getting my validation and my love from someone else, not from me, Em Churchill”  now what is wrong with that picture.  A lot. 

So for my Fall Equinox I am going to be taking steps to find the love that we all seek, in myself.  Each day I will wake up and do my breathing meditation, then I will take a few minutes of stillness to really get in tough with the light inside and then to wrap up my morning ritual I will say some affirmations to start my day.  And then I will repeat this process before I go to bed.  Throughout the day, if I sense that I am being unloving or mean to myself, I am going to stop and breath, take a second of silence and find that loving place again. 

What are you going to do for your Fall Equinox?  I really encourage you to take a second and meditate on it and see what your inner voice is wanting and take the steps you need to take to get where you are wanting to go.  I hope sharing with you what I am doing will spark some things in your heart space to know what to do for you :)

Now the Sun in Libra…so this is a great time for love and relationships.  It is also a good time for us water signs, because I don’t know about you, but I am a Pisces and being in Virgo, and Earth sign, for the last month has been very unsettling.  We water signs like to be flowing and free and those Earth signs really want to hanker us down to Earth.  So the cool thing about this time also is that we are going to be wanting to engage in authentic relationships and really wanting to connect with people on a deeper level.  So enjoy the watery flow of Libra and really engage in authenticity, not only in your outer relationships, but also your personal relationships with yourself.  Me, myself and I

So happy Fall Equinox to you and loving Libra Sun!  Let’s have an amazing month and I encourage you to really engage in some self love and authenticity. 

love,

Em

My daily reading of “Conversations with God” brought this up and I had to share:

Quote “One day, if you have a great deal of courage, you will experience a world where making love is considered better than making war.  On that day will you rejoice”

I love it.  I know we have all heard it before, make love not war, but just wanted to remind you! 

Lose the judgements about everything and it will lead you to the love that you seek.  We as a society judge everything as good or bad, and that is really just a judgement, it doesn’t mean that it is a fact or reality, so I say lets get rid of the judgements.  I know it is hard because as a society we pretty much do everything based on what we have been programed to believe as the right way or good or not good.  If it doesn’t harm or negatively affect someone else, do it for the love of it, for the love we all seek.

love,

Em

I am currently reading a few pages a day of “Conversations with God” by Neale Donald Walsch, and it is very interesting how things are put in terms one can understand.

I am more than half way through now and most of the things that are being said I have heard about before or read before in all the new thought ancient wisdom teachings that I have read over the years but last night I was reading this passage and it really hit home.  So, I thought I would share it with you today and maybe it will give you some insight to take with you, and put in your little pocket to hold dear to your heart!

Quote from the book:

“You get your life to “take off” by first becoming very clear in your thinking about it.  Think about what you want to be, do and have.  Think about it often until you are very clear about this.  Then, when you are very clear,think about nothing else.  Imagine no other possibilities.  Throw all negative thoughts out of your mental constructions.  Lose all pessimism.  Release all doubts.  Reject all fears.  Discipline your mind to hold fast to the original, creative thought.  When your thoughts are clear and steadfast, begin to speak them as truths.  Say them out loud.  Use the great command that calls forth creative power: I am.  I am is the strongest creative statement in the universe, it sets into motion those experiences, calls them forth, and brings them to you.  There is no other way the universe knows how to work.”

After reading this, it hit me like a ton of bricks.  I realized that I have been living in fear of the “failure” of “not succeeding” which has been the hurdle that I have been trying to move out of the way, but didn’t know how.  And now I realize that until you know what it is, you can’t move it.  I feel that I have always lived my life aiming for my dream, for my ultimate goal, and knew in every fiber that that is and what I am suppose to do.  But the negative creeps in and over time, even though you are still aiming for your goal, you begin to think fearful thoughts more and more without even realizing it.  And this is what is the hurdle in your way, or at least has been in my way up til now. 

And a big component to this is comparing yourself to others and knocking yourself down.  Facebook has not made this any easier…seeing your friends doing this and that, and then you think you aren’t doing enough, you aren’t going to succeed without doing more than the next guy/gal, but yet that is impossible because their path is different than yours and you will always strive to keep up with the next guy if you live your life by competing to do and be more.

This is something I have struggled a long time.  I am a type A that is very competitive and have lived a lot of my life by trying to do more, not better, just do as much as possible, but then I got burned out and was like, this isn’t working to my advantage…it never does in the end. 

So my commitment to myself today is to stop comparing, stop being scared and fearful, and just love myself.  Accept myself for where I am at right now and the big one here is “To replace negative thoughts about myself and my life with positive thoughts…or at least shift from the negative to not letting that thought expand and consume me and in essence ruin my day.”

To heaven on earth…I am going to strive for that today

love

Em